Man 'marries' niece
Man 'marries' nieceBy Patson Chilemba
Thursday July 05, 2007 [17:39]
A 25-year-old man in Lusaka is co-habiting with his 25-year-old niece with an intention of officially marrying her. Kalikonga Singogo yesterday said that he loved his niece, Ngambo Kamawe, and expressed sadness at his family's refusal to approve the intended marriage with his niece.
Singogo said he was due to meet his sister, Dorcas Kamawe, who is Ngambo's mother to conclude marriage negotiations. He said he loved Ngambo and wanted to live with her for the rest of his life. He was responding to Charity Katongo, one of his sisters who reminded him that it was an abomination for a man to marry his own niece.
"So are you sure that you want to marry your own niece and you are already living with her?" Katongo asked, as Singogo responded: "I told you that I would come to see you today over this issue, but why have you come here at his Chilenje house?"
Asked if he loved his niece and wanted to be with her in marriage, Singogo responded: "Yes, I love her and I want to marry her." But Kamawe said she would not allow the two to stay together because doing so would mean condoning 'abomination'. She expressed sadness, saying it was unthinkable that such a thing could happen.
"We are all surprised. It hurts because a person cannot marry his own niece. This is unacceptable and an abomination which can never be entertained. I'm very surprised at what is happening," Kamawe said emotionally.
Kamawe said she got the biggest shock of her life on Wednesday night when Singogo approached her and disclosed that he was getting married to her daughter.
She said both Ngambo and Singogo were living with her in Lusaka's Chalala area until Wednesday when they shifted to Chilenje in order to fulfil their desire to marry.
Kamawe said Singogo and Ngambo had been brought up together since they were 16 years and suspected that their love relationship started during the time they lived together.
Labels: FIRST COUSIN MARRIAGE
posted by MrK @ 5:35 PM
6 Comments:
:)) This is strictly a cultural thing. Among much of the world, first cousin marriages are not only allowed, they are encouraged. And of course my own granddad married his cousin. The only result I have seen is all his children look a lot like eachother. :)
Odd that The Post would lead with this story, though.
Mr. K, there is an element of idiocy that would run in the family when marriages are encouraged from the same family. Scientifically, the immune system also breaks down. Thus cross breeding is encouraged.
Reality
Don't Mind mrk. He is always on the wrong side of the debate
Mr K.
(I hope you will not fall for your uncle's daughter like your own grandfather.... from the horse's mouth!)
....However, I find it hard to believe that Kamawe was shocked at her sibling's (Singongo) "canal knowledge" of her own daughter (Ngambo)especially when one observes the casual manner in which Singongo approached the latter over the same. The calmness in which the whole episode is run suggests the contrary to what Kamawe wants the readership to believe. Her suspicion is nothing more than assertion that the two started their "affair" when they were still living under the same roof (which they continue to do) and to be precise since they were both sixteen, mathematically this has been going on for nine years and Kamawe only got wind of it now? I don't know where Chalala township is situated in Lusaka, but hasn't experience taught us that when you leave adult-children to share the same room, "things" are bound to happen. How many times have we heard of parents bringing up their hoard of kids including close relatives under one roof comprising of four walls only, with a curtain subdiving the "bedroom" area? Incest is rife under such circumstances and sibling marriages shouldn't surprise us anymore! In villages boys have their quarters and so do girls? When little boys start getting inquisitive about their sisters' bodies, they are thrown out to the boys quarters. But alas, the story is not the same in the sprawling shanty towns. The only way forward is to decongest the shanties and allow people to live normal lives under normal conditions, otherwise incest and cases of child defilement will continue to rise. There is nothing cultural in incest this is an abnormality which should not be encouraged.
End note : Under the French law, when a man impregnants his own sibling, he is denied parternity and has no right to the child. A man recently lost his case in the higher courts after he attempted to gain paternal rights. He swore that he loves the "mother" of his child and has threatened to appear to the European Courts in the Hague. But the law is the law, "some advocats" want it repealed but the majority fear for the worst and support it to discourage what Zambia is about to witness in Kamawe, Ngambo and singongo case. (IT IS NOT FOR NOTHING THAT THE LAW IS TOUGH ON SAME BLOOD "BREEDING" IN HUMANS to curb Abnormal syndroms like idiocy, ... etc.
Same blood sexual intercourse is secretly tolerated in humans as has been in the case above, but now it seems the young man wants to complete his mission by siring ka junior ..... gee!
slm
There is even a website dedicated to the subject:
www.cousincouples.com
I think the African taboo of marrying within ones clan is in place in this discussion.
Which is not a bad principle at all, of course. Keeps us off the porch in Deliverance. :)
However, I'm just reporting on the global attitudes toward first cousing marriage.
And of course the European aristocracy took things a lot further than just cousins marrying, but their marriages were usually for financial/political gain by their families.
Check out the Mad Monarchs website. I would say inbreeding had a lot to do with that.
The two need counselling. The young man may have got it wrong and is labouring under a rationale that marrying his relative is better than having a stranger eat his food.
Turning to slm, Chalala is not a shanty!
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