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Sex remark on small men angers Chiluba

Sex remark on small men angers Chiluba
By Amos Malupenga
Monday June 23, 2008 [04:00]

Former president Frederick Chiluba and his wife Regina were on Saturday gravely angered by Lusaka’s inspirational speaker Victoria Findlay who said that short and small men like him (Chiluba) like big women to show how powerful they are. This happened when Victoria featured on Frank Mutubila’s Mid Morning Show on Zambia National Broadcasting Corporation (ZNBC). Victoria was contributing to the show’s segment called “Living Health”.

In her discussion, Victoria talked about leadership and the psychological traps, flaws and blocks that stop leaders from success. She said the psychological blockage of a leader would reflect the direction of a country. Victoria gave an example of Dr Kenneth Kaunda whom she said his psychological trap was neediness. She said for this reason, Dr Kaunda expected the world to give Zambia everything. She said he expected continuos aid from Europe and other western countries, hence Zambia ended up with serious problems as a country.

Victoria also said Zimbabwe’s President, Robert Mugabe is trapped in the psychological flaw of neediness and what is worse is that he is also caught up in a heartbreak hotel. She said people who were in this trap were betrayed or felt unloved in life and were even prepared to go to war.

“They don’t feel loved by their mothers, girlfriends or women. They are let down in life,” Victoria said. “People caught in the neediness trap will lead their countries in disaster, they will blame the world for all the problems in their country.”

When it came to discussing Chiluba, Victoria said Chiluba suffers from what she called short-man syndrome which was about grandeur. She said as a short or small man, Chiluba likes big things to display his power or show that he has something to prove. She said that is why even when it came to women, Chiluba – whom she referred to as Kafupi - married ‘bigger’ women like Vera and Regina.

Victoria also said shorter or small men had smaller sexual organs and were weak sexually. She said people in Chiluba’s trap usually used their power to the detriment of their country or society.

However, Victoria’s talk enraged Chiluba and Regina who phoned her at different times to strongly register their displeasure and anger. In the same manner, Mutubila was also contacted together with the ZNBC management.

The visibly remorseful Victoria rushed to ZNBC and The Post offices to deeply register her apologies to Chiluba, Regina, ZNBC and Mutubila.

“I wish to sincerely apologise to Dr Chiluba and Mrs Regina Chiluba for my inadvertent reference to them,” Victoria stated. “From the depth of my heart, I regret these unfortunate remarks. Further, I wish to apologise to the members of the public, ZNBC and Mr Mutubila. I ask for forgiveness from Dr Chiluba. I see myself as a jester in God’s court. I attempt to help people see their flaws, their psychological traps and blocks that stop them success and happiness. I use humour to help people laugh at themselves like the jester in the Palace’s court. I help heal the world.

“However, in this particular case, my humour was extremely offensive and for this, I apologise from the depth of my heart.”
And in an interview later, Victoria said she was a very humorous person although sometimes her humour could be offensive.
“And this time, it became obnoxious,” Victoria said. “And if it becomes obnoxious, then it is no longer humour. In this case, I was obnoxious and my humour failed to be humour.

So I can say in this case, I am an idiot, a fool, limited and immature and I accept all these things. I made reference to the short man syndrome which I had no right to.”

And speaking through their spokesperson Emmanuel Mwamba, Chiluba and Regina unconditionally accepted Victoria’s profuse apology. They said they were deeply offended by her inappropriate and insulting remarks on a national broadcaster which put them to ridicule glare before a national audience.

Chiluba said he felt Mutubila as an experienced journalist could have curtailed Victoria’s inappropriate remarks. He said he was especially offended that Victoria put Mugabe, Hitler, Dr Kaunda in one box when these were totally different leaders.

“Her remarks to sexuality were very unfortunate,” Chiluba said. “We had contemplated a legal suit against ZNBC, Victoria and Mr Mutubila. But after the apology and request for forgiveness, we have decided to put this matter to rest and forgive Victoria, Mr Mutubila and ZNBC. But I want to caution the media after noting that numerous media outlets are not taking consideration of the rights of citizens and laws of libel and defamation.

I recognise that freedom of the press and freedom of expression come with responsibility. It is not a right to insult or offend people. Insults have no place in criticism.”

Labels: CHILUBA, DEFAMATION, MEDIA

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